Why is high sensitivity and showing emotion seen as a weakness? Being labeled as fragile or unhappy is commonplace for us as HSPs. We worry about what others will think of us and about being misunderstood. But Just because we don’t move at the same emotional speed as everyone else, we’re conditioned to feel ashamed and embarrassed for it.
Yes, being highly sensitive can make us feel like we’re on a never ending rollercoaster of high octane emotion and sensory overload, yes it's draining and overwhelming but it also means we possess awareness.
Do we fear being judged for our sensitivity? Are we worried that others might see us as weak if we take compassionate action to help?
And how do we start to overcome these feelings?
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Why is high sensitivity and showing emotion seen
as a weakness? Being labeled as fragile or unhappy
is commonplace for us as hsps and we often worry
about what others will think of us and about being
misunderstood. But just because we don't move
at the same emotional speed as everyone else
we're conditioned to feel ashamed and
embarrassed for it. This way of thinking
is really self-destructive and it causes many of
us to withdraw more and more from different kinds
of relationships and situations that make
us feel overwhelmed and even uncomfortable.
BKS Iyengar who was considered one of the
foremost yoga teachers in the world says in
his work Light on Life "sensitivity
is not a weakness or a vulnerability,
it is a clarity of perception and allows judicious
and precise action." I'm Tonya your host and today
we're chatting about high sensitivity and
the perception of weakness versus strength.
Welcome to the highly sensitive healing podcast
where we meet the joys and challenges of our
sensitivity with open minds and hearts to
awaken our best highly sensitive selves.
Hello my friends and wherever you are
I invite you to just pause for a moment
and take a couple of nice deep breaths
relax your shoulders and maybe set
an intention for what you'd like to
receive out of our time together today. Maybe
it's as simple as learning something new or
an affirmation of an emotion or a feeling
you're experiencing now in this moment.
And maybe think about why you chose this
particular episode at this time what's going on in
your life that drew you to talk about this today.
So a quick story about how this episode came about,
recently here in the pacific northwest
we experienced a record heat wave and it
topped out I think at around 106 degrees
and like so many people here in this area
in our home we have no air conditioning so it
really was a stressful few days to say the least.
But aside from the stress of living
in a house that was 96 degrees
I spent most of my time over these four-ish days
trying to care for the wildlife that visits us
and lives with us on our small piece of property.
And so we have rabbits and deer that come through
you know lots and lots of birds and some frogs
and I spent a lot of my time just rotating
out dishes of water and walking around
the area looking for birds in distress.
And on the second day I was doing this my husband
started shaking his head and kind of chuckling at
me rolling his eyes and he said something like you
can't save them all and it's great that you care
so much but i wish you cared about just one or two
things instead of caring so much about everything!
He said you're so emotional and you worry too much
about things that you just can't do anything about
and I just replied I said I know I know but I
can't help it and I just kind of went on my way
doing my thing with the water dishes. Now he wasn't
trying at all to be cruel to me that wasn't his
intention at all he's a good person it's just
after our almost 13 years together he still
doesn't get it he just simply doesn't get it
because he's not anything close to being an hsp.
And a little later I started thinking you
know how we do as hsps analyzing and replaying
conversations over and over in our head and
I had a little epiphany and iI was thinking
what actually is wrong with
caring about everything
and how and why is this scene as such a bad thing
and am I weak because I'm spending time and energy
caring and helping and is my husband
strong because he can so easily
dismiss what was going on and what I saw
as the suffering of other living things?
and I invite you to just imagine for a moment
what a world we would live in what kind of world
it would be if every person cared about every
bird every tree every ocean and neighbor and
what kind of world might be living in right now
if everyone actually cared more instead of less
and this feeling of kind of irritation and
frustration from that conversation that we had
is what brought me back to this quote from
Iyengar that sensitivity is not a weakness or
a vulnerability it's a clarity of perception
and allows us judicious and precise action.
So I started thinking you know
what does this mean for us as hsps
and yes we can pretty much all agree I'm sure
that being highly sensitive can make us feel
like we're on a never-ending roller coaster of
high octane emotion and sensory overload and
yes it's draining and it's overwhelming
but it also means that we possess awareness
a genuine awareness and
understanding and appreciation
for the suffering and needs of the animals and
plants and people around us. And we're more in
tune with our environment and we're more skilled
and capable of recognizing difficult situations
and this is our clarity of perception as Iyengar
said we can naturally put ourselves into the shoes
of an animal or a tree or a suffering child and
yes it's painful for us it's often extremely
painful for us because we have a natural
conscience a natural contempt for neglect and abuse
but it also drives us it drives us to stand
up for what we intuitively feel is right and
instead of dismissing these feelings or running
away from them like a non-hsp person might.
Our innate abilities allow us to
take judicious and precise action
you know our sensitivity really I believe is a
highly developed skill and it allows us a deep
understanding to see clearly what is happening
around us and most importantly what needs to
happen in order to be of service to someone else
in need so what helped me to feel better during
the heatwave taking action that one small
act to set out water for animals in need
and making the conscious decision to look past my
husband's judgment that what I was doing was an
action of weakness and I tell you truthfully
it took me a long while to get to the point
where I can now usually follow my sensitive
instincts without letting someone else's opinion
make me second-guess it. And do we
fear being judged for our sensitivity
sure. And are we worried that others might
see us as weak if we take compassionate
action to help at times? Most definitely. So
how do we start to overcome these feelings
this fear of being judged of being misunderstood
in my experience it's all about taking action
and when we feel compelled to do something helpful
and kind I genuinely I genuinely believe that this
is no accident and when we can start to look
past the misunderstanding that others have of us
because I believe and I promise you this to the
depth of my soul that highly sensitive people
we are the true north we are the consciousness of
humanity. The human race whether most believe it or
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