Episode 1

Is our High Sensitivity a weakness?

Published on: 7th July, 2021

Why is high sensitivity and showing emotion seen as a weakness? Being labeled as fragile or unhappy is commonplace for us as HSPs. We worry about what others will think of us and about being misunderstood. But Just because we don’t move at the same emotional speed as everyone else, we’re conditioned to feel ashamed and embarrassed for it.

Yes, being highly sensitive  can make us feel like we’re on a never ending rollercoaster of high octane emotion and sensory overload, yes it's draining and overwhelming but it also means we possess awareness.

Do we fear being judged for our sensitivity? Are we worried that others might see us as weak if we take compassionate action to help?

And how do we start to overcome these feelings?

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Transcript

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Why is high sensitivity and showing emotion seen 

as a weakness? Being labeled as fragile or unhappy  

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is commonplace for us as hsps and we often worry 

about what others will think of us and about being  

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misunderstood. But just because we don't move 

at the same emotional speed as everyone else  

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we're conditioned to feel ashamed and 

embarrassed for it. This way of thinking  

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is really self-destructive and it causes many of 

us to withdraw more and more from different kinds  

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of relationships and situations that make 

us feel overwhelmed and even uncomfortable.  

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BKS Iyengar who was considered one of the 

foremost yoga teachers in the world says in  

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his work Light on Life "sensitivity 

is not a weakness or a vulnerability,  

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it is a clarity of perception and allows judicious 

and precise action." I'm Tonya your host and today  

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we're chatting about high sensitivity and 

the perception of weakness versus strength.

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Welcome to the highly sensitive healing podcast 

where we meet the joys and challenges of our  

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sensitivity with open minds and hearts to 

awaken our best highly sensitive selves.

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Hello my friends and wherever you are  

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I invite you to just pause for a moment 

and take a couple of nice deep breaths

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relax your shoulders and maybe set 

an intention for what you'd like to  

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receive out of our time together today. Maybe 

it's as simple as learning something new or  

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an affirmation of an emotion or a feeling 

you're experiencing now in this moment.  

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And maybe think about why you chose this 

particular episode at this time what's going on in  

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your life that drew you to talk about this today. 

So a quick story about how this episode came about,  

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recently here in the pacific northwest 

we experienced a record heat wave and it  

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topped out I think at around 106 degrees 

and like so many people here in this area  

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in our home we have no air conditioning so it 

really was a stressful few days to say the least.  

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But aside from the stress of living 

in a house that was 96 degrees  

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I spent most of my time over these four-ish days 

trying to care for the wildlife that visits us  

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and lives with us on our small piece of property. 

And so we have rabbits and deer that come through  

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you know lots and lots of birds and some frogs 

and I spent a lot of my time just rotating  

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out dishes of water and walking around 

the area looking for birds in distress.  

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And on the second day I was doing this my husband 

started shaking his head and kind of chuckling at  

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me rolling his eyes and he said something like you 

can't save them all and it's great that you care  

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so much but i wish you cared about just one or two 

things instead of caring so much about everything!  

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He said you're so emotional and you worry too much 

about things that you just can't do anything about  

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and I just replied I said I know I know but I 

can't help it and I just kind of went on my way  

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doing my thing with the water dishes. Now he wasn't 

trying at all to be cruel to me that wasn't his  

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intention at all he's a good person it's just 

after our almost 13 years together he still  

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doesn't get it he just simply doesn't get it 

because he's not anything close to being an hsp.

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And a little later I started thinking you 

know how we do as hsps analyzing and replaying  

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conversations over and over in our head and 

I had a little epiphany and iI was thinking  

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what actually is wrong with 

caring about everything  

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and how and why is this scene as such a bad thing 

and am I weak because I'm spending time and energy  

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caring and helping and is my husband 

strong because he can so easily  

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dismiss what was going on and what I saw 

as the suffering of other living things?  

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and I invite you to just imagine for a moment 

what a world we would live in what kind of world  

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it would be if every person cared about every 

bird every tree every ocean and neighbor and  

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what kind of world might be living in right now 

if everyone actually cared more instead of less  

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and this feeling of kind of irritation and 

frustration from that conversation that we had  

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is what brought me back to this quote from 

Iyengar that sensitivity is not a weakness or  

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a vulnerability it's a clarity of perception 

and allows us judicious and precise action.  

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So I started thinking you know 

what does this mean for us as hsps  

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and yes we can pretty much all agree I'm sure 

that being highly sensitive can make us feel  

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like we're on a never-ending roller coaster of 

high octane emotion and sensory overload and  

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yes it's draining and it's overwhelming 

but it also means that we possess awareness  

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a genuine awareness and 

understanding and appreciation  

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for the suffering and needs of the animals and 

plants and people around us. And we're more in  

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tune with our environment and we're more skilled 

and capable of recognizing difficult situations  

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and this is our clarity of perception as Iyengar

said we can naturally put ourselves into the shoes  

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of an animal or a tree or a suffering child and 

yes it's painful for us it's often extremely  

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painful for us because we have a natural 

conscience a natural contempt for neglect and abuse  

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but it also drives us it drives us to stand 

up for what we intuitively feel is right and  

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instead of dismissing these feelings or running 

away from them like a non-hsp person might.  

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Our innate abilities allow us to 

take judicious and precise action  

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you know our sensitivity really I believe is a 

highly developed skill and it allows us a deep  

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understanding to see clearly what is happening 

around us and most importantly what needs to  

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happen in order to be of service to someone else 

in need so what helped me to feel better during  

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the heatwave taking action that one small 

act to set out water for animals in need  

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and making the conscious decision to look past my 

husband's judgment that what I was doing was an  

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action of weakness and I tell you truthfully 

it took me a long while to get to the point  

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where I can now usually follow my sensitive 

instincts without letting someone else's opinion  

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make me second-guess it. And do we 

fear being judged for our sensitivity  

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sure. And are we worried that others might 

see us as weak if we take compassionate  

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action to help at times? Most definitely. So 

how do we start to overcome these feelings  

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this fear of being judged of being misunderstood 

in my experience it's all about taking action  

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and when we feel compelled to do something helpful 

and kind I genuinely I genuinely believe that this  

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is no accident and when we can start to look 

past the misunderstanding that others have of us  

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because I believe and I promise you this to the 

depth of my soul that highly sensitive people  

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we are the true north we are the consciousness of 

humanity. The human race whether most believe it or  

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not needs us. We need highly sensitive people for 

the survival of all living things on our planet  

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and just because we have an empathetic and gentle 

nature does not mean that we're weak it actually  

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means the opposite that we're brave enough to 

take on challenges when they're presented to us  

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but yet we hold back. The more action we take  

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when we allow our sensitivity to guide us the 

more confident and resilient we become over time  

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and what's the result of us sharing 

our full sensitive potential?  

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A world that is more loving more kind and 

more compassionate so even a small action  

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like placing small dishes of water outside 

in a heat wave which by the way many animals  

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visit us over that weekend and they all 

visited the water dishes that I put out.  

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So even these small actions they push us forward 

they push us to embrace our sensitivity instead  

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of hiding in a way and I promise you 

the more you allow your highly sensitive  

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nature into the world the better you will feel 

emotionally energetically and even physically.

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And I'd love to hear from you can you think 

of a time where you were maybe compelled to  

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take an action despite what someone else 

thought were you able to take that action  

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or were you held back by fear of judgment and the 

next time you're in a situation do you think you  

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might do something differently? I'd love to hear 

your thoughts and stories if you'd like to share  

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your highly sensitive experience and I'll end 

today's episode by sharing an affirmation with  

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you that I use when I feel myself holding back 

from being my complete highly sensitive self:

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Love is my guiding truth and I follow it

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Love is my guiding truth and I follow it. And for 

me it really doesn't get more simple than that

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thank you so much for spending time with me 

here on the highly sensitive healing podcast  

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new episodes are released every wednesday 

and if you ever have a question or a comment  

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or even an idea for a future episode please feel 

free anytime to send an email or an instagram  

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message all the links you'll need are in the 

show notes and if you found value in this episode  

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please share it with a fellow hsp or someone 

who cares about them and wants to learn more  

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about what it's like to live as a highly 

sensitive person i'll see you next time

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